How Letting Go of Your Home Can Help You Let Go of Loss
Note: Today we have a short guest post from Lucille Rosetti. Her blog, The Bereaved, is a helpful resource for navigating through grief. She has written a book on the subject: Life After Death: A Wellness Guide for the Bereaved. Thank you Lucille for this wonderful article.
Losing a close loved one is like losing a part of yourself. You suddenly find yourself facing a life you never imagined and trying to put together the pieces without that person in it. When every room, wall, and smell in your home reminds you of your loss, it can be
difficult to truly work through your grief. For many people, a move can make the process easier. Here are a few ways moving may be able to help you move on.
Downsizing Can Make Life Easier
Moving after the death of a loved one can be a challenging decision to make. But often times, especially after the loss of spouse, moving to a smaller home can make daily life more manageable. Losing half of your support system is hard enough without having to worry about taking care of a big home, a big yard, or a huge list of household responsibilities. While you could hire help, you may find it more financially feasible to sell your home and buy one that is more suited to your new life. Before you sell, find out what your home is worth so you will know what you can expect as a reasonable offer. You can also use online sources to price new homes.
A Fresh Town Can Be a Fresh Start
When we lose someone so close to us, it can be hard to escape the daily reminders of life together. Something as simple as the parking lot of your favorite restaurant to that intersection they always complained about can be enough to bring you to tears. While there are ways to overcome these triggers, some find it much more beneficial to relocate. A new town brings new locations, new scenery, and a chance to breathe and get away from some of your grief. And while moving away won’t fully simplify your mourning, it can allow you to create a life for yourself where you can be truly happy, even without the one you lost.
Finding a New Home Can Be Simple
The process of finding and buying a home can be stressful. Add grief into the mix and you may be feeling overwhelmed. That’s why it is essential to work with a real estate professional who understands your situation and can help carefully walk you through finding your new home. A realtor will be able to find properties that meet your needs while offering advice on neighborhood features such as school systems and public transportation. You can rely on your realtor to help you set up viewings and work with sellers on your behalf. Do some research online and don’t be afraid to interview multiple agents to find the right one for you. If you are selling your current home, find a selling agent to help you with that process as well.
Decluttering Can Bring Some Closure
Going through all the stuff, whether it belongs to you or your late loved one, will take some time. If you know you will move, try starting this process sooner rather than later. You can hire a home organizer consultant to help you declutter (in the Tacoma area, these professionals charge between $250 and $528). Or have a relative or friend assist you so they can help you stay as objective as possible when sifting through your things. It can be so hard to let go of trivial items when they are tied to your loved one. However, decluttering can be a powerful boost for mental health and may help your grief process. Once you have decided what you will keep, you can pick up supplies from moving companies so you can wrap and pack your belongings safely. It may also be beneficial to look into hiring movers, especially if you have a lot of heavy items to relocate. Hiring two movers with a truck will likely cost you $90 – $120 an hour.
By letting go of your home, you’re not letting go of the person you loved — you are simply creating space to build a life for yourself. A life that can still bring you so much joy and still holds so much for you to look forward to. So honor your loved one by making yourself happy.